. . . "In my experience, one of those differences has to do with how my mind ???felt.??? In one relationship where I felt I was ???in love,??? my mind was actually a bit hesitant (???stupor of thought????), whereas when I ???fell in love??? with my wife, my mind had no such reservations (though I could???ve concocted reservations, the reservations didn???t feel very significant, if that makes any sense)?" .