. "what i would love is having a conversation with her WITHOUT it being some sort of pissing contest about who has it worse. everyone has their days, everyone has stuff that sucks sometimes. i try to validate what goes on with them, but i never feel validated, just oh you think that is bad, well check this out! like come on, really? ugh! i gotta learn to just let this stuff go. i feel like i have t" . . .