"In a case like weeblewobble's story where the bride clearly wasn't in on the plan (if there even was a plan) I would be offended on her behalf.But if the HC mutually agreed to cake smashing - and left their unwitting guests out of it, then I would perhaps not find it charming, but since it was their decision to do it and they seemed happy with it, I would not think it was my place to object.Persona" . . . .