These requests are especially stressful for two reasons: As a 2nd time bride, I wanted to elope or have a tiny wedding, but as a 1st time groom, my fiance wanted the whole event; also, my family is small, far-flung, and meets very infrequently, while my fi???s family is huge, lives within a tri-state area in the Northeas, and sees each other _all_ the time.