That way, he does not get blindsided and has the trip to think things through, so you have plenty of time to get out without being bargained with.posted by Rodrigo Lamaitre at 7:59 AM on April 22, 2012 [2 favorites] Just moving out when he is out of town is cruel and cowardly, particularly since you consider him your best friend (you have not described an abusive or dangerous relationship).