Clearly a lot of people do have cherished 'vision' of what girls are like or not like - and we all have to live and learn. in any case people do have different tastes : i do not think anyone was objecting to that in itself but the double standards etc. etc. i do think 'marrying back home' is a part of the arrange marriage package -> though by no means a 'necessary' part. a marriage is 'arranged' to