My dear, so many of us have been where you are and let me tell you, he has no idea what he wants and honesty he probably wont know it for a while....my hubby gave me the same talk after 30 yrs marriage and I said no to sleeping with others, drinking heavy and smoking were a big a no for me....he made me feel like I was the lowest form of human....never let anyone take you feel like that, I threw h