Robert C. on July 29, 2006 at 10:43 am BrianJ #3: I think sometimes we seek platitudinous cheer-up phrases to avoid our responsibility???which is well attested to in scripture???to ???mourn with those who mourn,??? a phrase whose very existence presupposes that mourning is a very real and inevitable part of life that we should meet head on rather than trying to deny or avoid???.