She is quoted: ???But I think sometimes it???s much harder for women to say, ???I???m not into that,??? or ???Please, I don???t want to do that, let???s do something else,??? than it is to say, ???Sure.??? Putting all the onus on the person who doesn???t have that fetish or desire, particularly if the person who doesn???t have that desire is the woman, really reproduces a lot of old structures and