We also don???t know for sure if her partner is a Narcissist, not all abusers are Narcs, some have PTSD, some are BPD, some have other problems, might be substance abuse issues it could be a myriad of things, I can???t even say whether or not this man is beyond redemption without the right kind of help, but the goal here is not to help him heal but rather hope that with your friend taking a stand